darkersolstice:

autumnhobbit:

i fully support people being able to vent

but i also firmly support a person’s right to say “hey, i really would rather not hear this right now” for any reason, so if you ever don’t want me to mindlessly ramble about how much my life sucks PLEASE feel free to tell me because i strongly think that helping someone deal with their problems should be VOLUNTARY

Tip: If it is a you-thing, make that clear. One phrase I’ve found useful in my personal life is “I don’t have the capacity to be a load-bearing component at this time.” It’s a little stuffy, but it makes it crystal clear where the problem is: capacity. It’s not about not-wanting to help, it’s not-having-the ability-to-can-even.