kingcitywitch:

thesingingsorceress:

bitterblueskies:

hmu-girls:

vivid-ellipses:

fadingsuggestion:

Fuck anyone who says I have to forgive everyone, “for my sake.” I worked hard for this anger. I worked hard to love myself enough to hate them.

Shit, yeah, this is a thing that is hard to articulate. Some people don’t feel healed by forgiving the people who hurt them, because that’s what they kept doing over and over and it only led to getting more hurt. Sometimes you feel healed when you’re finally brave enough to say “This person was horrible to me, and I did not deserve that treatment, and I don’t have to be okay with it.”

Wait.. this is really important.

I hate that. I don’t need to forgive anyone. HELL, if I forgive you, you sure as HELL should know that I WONT BE FORGETTING IT. 

I learned from a young age because of my father having NPD (narcissistic personality disorder) that “forgive and forget” doesn’t work for me. For the most part I do have to forgive people to feel okay. If I don’t it eats away at me, but not everyone is like that! That’s the important thing to note; no two hearts are the same. For me, I live by “forgive, but do NOT forget.” Remember the people who hurt you. Yes there are people you can eventually trust again but you should never forget what they did. Keep it in your mind as protection from any further hurt.

I am interning with a therapist who literally calls forgive “the F word”. When it comes to others you don’t have to forgive anything or anyone. That is your decision to make and how you do it and on what terms are all valid.