biggest-gaudiest-patronuses:

biggest-gaudiest-patronuses:

biggest-gaudiest-patronuses:

biggest-gaudiest-patronuses:

i spent christmas alone while my family got together and fought, and honestly i feel so good about this

i bought myself presents, cooked a big meal, drank wine and watched Home Alone 3 w/ my dog. I don’t feel sorry for myself at all.

meanwhile my sister threatened to disown my dad so he threatened to disown her, while my mom enabled and my other sister downed a bottle of wine to deal.

on the other side of the country, i was busy discovering, to my delight, that the that the 3rd installment of the Home Alone franchise not only stood up to the test of time, but contains some of the best oneliners and comedic timing I have ever seen.

honestly, keep toxic people out of your life. family isn’t everything, and bad family is often worse than no family. don’t be afraid to put in some distance, especially during high stress times like the holidays. you don’t actually owe them anything.

being alone for the holidays is so much better than being with people who make you unhappy.

kidgecat:

There’s something really obnoxious and annoying about affluent people who try to live on welfare/food stamps/a dollar a day/out on the street/etc. for a short period of time to “learn what it’s really like” as if there aren’t actual living people out there who legitimately have to live like that and who are perfectly capable of telling their own stories if these motherfuckers would deign to listen

mswyrr:

harlequinhatter:

weare-monk:

aspiringwarriorlibrarian:

lesbwian:

Superheroes that are like “if we kill them we’re just as bad as they are uwu” ? Micro dick energy

The only exception is Aang, whose whole “I’m not gonna kill him if i can find another way” thing is less false moral equivalency and more “I’m twelve and I have been through way too much bullshit this year to add ‘commit my first murder’ to the list.”

I do respect superheroes who don’t kill, and I really think “we’re as bad as they are if we do it” is a terrible oversimplification of why someone would come to that moral conclusion.

Three reasons why a hero might not kill:

1. They are not granted by their society a “licence to kill.” Many (not all) people accept that a soldier or a judge might need to kill a wrongdoer in the course of their duties. Those people (should) act under strict rules and processes to determine when a death is just. A society, to be peaceful, usually functions under a guarantee that people won’t on their own judgement decide to off people. Vigilantes don’t usually have state-sanctioned authority, but they do rely on public goodwill to be counted as heroes and not menaces or even villains. A hero, especially an independent, self-proclaimed one, may lack the authority or judgement to serve as executioner. Most just societies require a trial before delivering a sentence.

2. They don’t need to. Paradoxically, or maybe not so much so, the stronger a hero is, the less they need to kill. One of the most common defenses for a murder is “self defense,” the idea that the person making the plea was in so much danger from the deceased that killing them was justifiable. But once you’re a swordsman swift enough to cut bullets or a muscleman strong enough to lift trucks, who’s that big a threat? As your control over your power and your ability to master an opponent both increase (and barring completely wild or uncontrolled abilities, these two are very linked) the easier it becomes to hold back, to subdue with the minimal amount of damage and to render even the worst villains neutralized without going nuclear.

3. The power to kill is bad for their mental health. Not everyone can perform even a “just” killing with a clean conscience. A hero might fear the trauma of killing, and seek to avoid the damage. Or a hero might introspect, and realize that, should they kill today, tomorrow the choice will be easier. Killing an opponent, rather than subduing them, is often the easy way out, and a hero who comes to rely on that solution might find themselves killing more and more, Even if killing isn’t addictive, a hero might still fear that mindset.

Now, a common version of this problem is Batman, who wouldn’t kill the Joker even if the Joker is at maximum edge, dealing out huge terrorist acts and body counts. The best reason for Batman not to kill him isn’t “I am as bad as the Joker if I kill,” but more, “I am a man who uses superheroism as a trauma coping mechanism, and if I start committing extrajudicial killings my mental state and my loose alliance with the police will both deteriorate.” 

THANK. YOU.

4) There’s specific ethics/religious beliefs/cultural values at work and people have the right to have different ideas about those things. See, for example, how often in anime you get resolutions that aren’t about killing your enemy. The idea that killing is the only valid solution to problems is actually very extreme and nobody is obligated to agree with it or promote it in their stories.

5) A hero is being written as aspiring to or embodying really high ideals because they’re a hero and heroic literature is about people who move outside the bounds of the ordinary. It doesn’t mean everyone has to walk around with that level of extreme commitment to whatever their ideals are. So they’re more forgiving or whatever… it’s not the end of the world or an insult to anyone who isn’t so forgiving.

thewhumpening:

You know what trope I’m really diggin’ lately?

Overly intimate villains.

Give me villains that use soft, familiar pet names, calling the whumpee things like Love, Hun, Sweetheart. Give me villains that get too close, that use what would normally be soothing caresses. Cupping the cheek, gliding their thumb over quivering lips, a gentle run of fingers through sweat-damp hair, lips pressing softly against scars, bruises, or unmarked skin, perhaps to show the whumpee where they’re going to hurt next.

Give me villains that make it where the whumpee can no longer be comforted by their rescuers by these simple, soothing gestures.