me at 14: wow, protagonists in media my age! how relateable!
me at 28: WHY ARE THERE SO MANY CHILD SOLDIERS? WHERE ARE ALL THE ADULTS? WHO LET THIS HAPPEN AND WHY ARE THEY NOT BEING PROSECUTED BY LAW WITHIN THESE FICTIONAL UNIVERSES
In the same vein:
Me at 14: oh protagonists that are 17-20-ish, they’re basically adults, right?
Me at 28: Oh my Gods you’re babies who left you in charge?!
Ariel: Daddy, I love him! Me at 14: Yeah, girl, you tell him! Me at 30:
Marnie in Halloweentown: I’m thirteen, okay? I’m practically grown up! I’m certainly old enough to make my own choices – right?
Me at 7: Right!
Me at 13: Right! …Well, okay, maybe not practically grown up, but still, right!
Me at 28:
You either die young or live long enough to see yourself become the villain.
man, teenaged girls aren’t allowed to have a genuine interest in anything without being ridiculed for it. if a girl likes ugg boots and starbucks she’s stupid and stereotypical, but if she likes combat boots and obscure coffee houses she’s a hipster wannabe and is trying too hard. if a girl listens to boy bands and other popular artists she’s a dumb follower, if she reads comics or plays video games she’s a poser/fake geek girl, if she likes sex she’s a slut but if she doesn’t like sex she’s a prude, if she wears makeup she’s fake but if she doesn’t wear makeup she’s a slob, if she has low self-esteem she needs to learn to love herself but if she has high self-esteem she’s overconfident and vain, if she’s interested in politics she’s a crazy social justice warrior but if she prefers to stay out of social matters she’s a dumb airhead. girls are literally mocked for every single thing they like or do, no matter what those things are, and i’m really really sick of it.
Because here’s the thing – a guy who flits from girl to girl? He’s not going to obsess over you. He’ll flirt with you for as long as you both want, but never beyond that.
It’s usually characterized as him losing interest in a girl and going to the next one, leaving her broken-hearted. The thing is, that goes both ways. If the girl isn’t interested in him, he’ll back off and go find someone else.
For women who are constantly afraid of men’s reactions in the face of rejection, this is a relief. When you are constantly terrified of men who don’t take no for an answer, that the guy you say “no” to will follow you home or try to force you into doing something with him, a womanizer is a relief. You know he won’t get attached to you. He’s not going to obsess over you. The guy who’s already gone to flirt with some other girls isn’t going to follow you home.
Nice Guys, the kind who try to advertise how much better they are than those other guys, don’t seem to realize how disturbing it is when they try to play a “deep relationship” right off that bat. Staying with one girl all night at the party doesn’t signal commitment to us – it signals obsession.
The womanizing “Asshole”, the guy who loses interest quickly? He’s safe. We can say ‘yes’ if we want, but we can also say ‘no’, and he’ll just go find someone else. He’s not going to try and talk us around, he’s not going to waste time convincing us how much better we are than the next guy.
Maybe they leave a trail of broken hearts behind them – but as far as most girls are concerned, broken hearts are a lot better than broken bodies.
All I can say is thank you for actually defining
nice guy because as someone who tries really hard to be kind to
everyone for no reason other than that I know the world can be a cruel
place and I never know what someone is going through I often feel
included in posts talking about how horrible nice guys are because
nobody ever told me that they are talking about people who pretend to be
nice
Yeah, sometimes slang and jargon becomes so widespread we forget its literal meaning, and how it might look to someone who doesn’t know the colloquial meaning. I’ve definitely been there – still am there, there are lot of terms I see on Tumblr that I don’t understand.
Nice Guys (“Nice Guys”, Nice Guys™, etc.), is a phrase that refers to men who try to gain feminine attention and regard by positing themselves as “nice”, in opposition to the stereotype of the Manly Man who is ‘not a nice guy’. This mentality is built on a caricature of gender, and one which dehumanizes women (assuming all of us like the same things, or the same things in men), and denigrates other men.
You’ll find a lot of examples of this unpleasant kind of person here.
I do wish more of the world put in more effort to be kind to everyone. It’s just what a lot of people, especially men, don’t realize is that that respecting boundaries is a kindness, and lack of romantic or sexual interest is not a cruelty.
“Cats don’t comfort you when you’re feeling down.”
What a load of crap !!! One thing for certain… cats don’t give a rat’s ass what B.S. you tell about them. They refuse to care less, either about what you think of them, or about the people they love.
“Cats don’t miss you when you’re gone” is a ton of bs. Whenever I leave to go anywhere, I can hear my cats meowing at the door within moments trying to find me. They sit in the window watching for me to come home and they are at the door to greet me almost every single time.
Cats also grieve. This cat watches a video of their owner who had passed away and he tries to cuddle up with the phone. The look on his face when they zoom in on him brings me to tears every time.
One of our cats comes and sleeps next to me when he sees that I’m not feeling well. If he’s in the kitchen when I come down for food with cramps or with a cold, he’ll follow me back upstairs and lay down on me and purr.
Cats are aloof animals who don’t put up with nonsense, will defend their boundaries with claws, and sometimes like to push things down to see what happens, but they aren’t jerks.
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