avtorsola:

just-shower-thoughts:

Telling children that you won’t get mad if they tell the truth and then getting mad about it will turn them into massive liars in the future

Something else that is very important to realize is that, even if you’re not angry, being upset with them and denying that you’re be upset is almost as bad. You can say that you’re not angry all you want, but the second you act anything other than calm and understanding, kids will pick up on it. And then, if they love, respect, or are scared of you, they’ll learn to lie so they don’t upset you, and then they learn to lie to avoid conflicts.

In short – if you promise not to get mad about something, and then find yourself getting upset over it anyway, explain that to the the kid. Let them know “Alright, I promised not to get angry with you. However, I am getting upset for X, Y, and Z reasons because I trust/care about/am concerned for you/other reason. But I am very, very happy and proud that you are telling me the truth, and I will do my best to focus on that, okay?”

Because guess what? Adults aren’t perfect. They never will be. Don’t pretend to be otherwise. Kids will know when you’re being honest with them, and (for the most part) they’ll respect it.

Don’t lie to your kids when you’re upset with them. They’re not dumb – they’ll figure out that they’re connected somehow, and then they’ll try to avoid that trigger again.

sweet-thinspo:

daintiest-desires:

yummy-recovery:

i-have-no-gender-only-rage:

I have a lot of 13 and 14 year olds following me so here is a message for them 

  • don’t do drugs even though tumblr makes it look cool
  • mental illness is romanticized on here but please get help if you think you have one
  • even if it looks like everyone knows what their label is it is ok not to know 
  • please focus on school but not so hard you have a mental break down every night   
  • Smoking is not cool
  • cutting is not cool get help
  • eating disorders can kill you get help
  • if you think about dying or killing yourself that is not normal and get help
  • if your friends treat you like shit find new ones

Did I reblog this yet bc it’s very important???!

JIC
IF YOUR FRIENDS TREAT YOU LIKE SHIT FIND NEW ONES

☀️☀️☀️

covertlydesperado:

sapphicalienn:

christichris:

justhurtingalot:

Isn’t it weird how you can actually feel the pain in your chest and stomach when something really hurts your feelings

This is actually because it activates your vagus nerve! Basically your body goes “we are so upset! We must be injured! Where???? On the inside guts! Those are confusing and hard to differentiate!!! Confusing guts are hurt!”

Great! How do I uninstall it?

“great! how do i uninstall it?” carries the same vibe as “thanks! i hate it” but more ACTIONABLE bc we gettin our shit together in 2k18